Before I even saw the more inside, I knew you were talking about Ithaca. An observation from someone who's not gay and didn't go to Cornell, but did go to graduate school: Drink Menu. Fear not! They were always hanging out, organizing parties and get togethers and doing what they can to be social and inclusive. You're not going to find the same kind of scene in Ithaca as you did in New York.
There's always good stuff going on in the Commons, too.
The guys who run No Radio also do dance parties monthly at Korova? We got you covered. I've only been in Ithaca for a month and a half, so maybe I will adjust. Dough is perfect late-night-I-need-delivery greasy food.
There's a reason why half of the inner city kids from New York left Cornell after their freshman year - they weren't kicked out, they just couldn't stand living in the middle of nowhere.